In a cosy cafe, insulated from the mini storm outside, my friend, her dog, and I enjoyed the quiet joys of an early spring morning. At one point, she asked me a personal question:

“Do you feel useless or incomplete as a woman?”

I looked at her with my mouth slightly open.

“You know that somehow your incapability to bear children makes you feel inferior?”

How did I choose to react?

My friend and I are similar in many ways; she and I have partners and a dog but not children. We both have trouble conceiving and choose to adopt animals as children.

I told her that, in the beginning, I let people’s judgements and rules dictate how I felt inside. In the end, I felt unworthy, even ostracised. But as destiny unfolded, miraculously, a terrible accident affected my lower spine and changed me forever. Through an extended period of retrospection and self-inquiry, I found meditation, became pain-free and found the unknown, that quantum field, a place of infinite possibilities where everything was possible. The accident made me a new person, confident and empowered in ways I had never been before the accident. I told my friend I felt strong, happy and empowered to make my own choices (such as not to adopt children) and not to follow society’s rules and expectations. I believed that having my own voice and speaking my truth gave me a superpower. Nobody could say I did not live life my own way. And that made me so proud of myself.

Why are women so afraid?

For far too long, women have lived with double standards, expectations, and rules laid out by others (men and fellow women). This double standard led to women repressing their innermost desires; not all women wanted to be wives, mothers, career women, or have families. Some wanted to live alone, build their own houses, have many animals, or become the head of their household. What happened was, in time, this repressed feminine energy created individuals, families, communities, nations, and a world where feminine (in this case, being a woman) was seen as a liability, even weak. Women continued to carry that torch no matter what their true desires begged them to do.

Fortunately, the tables have turned. The time has arrived for women to take centre stage and change the narratives. Our planet has been changing for a while, and all creation living inside her belly, like us, the human species, and animals, is changing with it. With the feminine energy on the rise, war, lack, and inequality are slowly replaced by harmony, grace and novelty. Women no longer need to feel inadequate. Women are now empowered to seize their birth-given rights just like men had and move forward with pride.

What do I do differently?

• My life is my creation and my responsibility. I am free from society’s expectations and rules, and because of that, I live a profound and fulfilling life.
• I impose my own sets of boundaries and rules that are beneficial for society and the world at large.
• Although my circle of friends is small, that circle supports my growth; they are my tribe.
• Every day, through meditations, I hold on to amplified feelings like gratitude, joy and clarity instead of lack or fear. This way, I know I am doing my soul’s purpose and being authentic.